One of the few good things about having a lot of weight to
lose is that diet can be pretty forgiving at first. If you focus on nutritional
food quality and macronutrient balance and on not eating TOO much, you’re going
to lose some weight—maybe not at a rocket clip, but that’s not desirable either.
The orientation at the health club went well yesterday. I really liked the fitness manager and the
club is very nice. Now I have to wait
for the trainer (Justin) to give me a call and set up some sessions. I’ve already decided that if I like working
with him I am going to keep the training going for as long as I can.
Found out my old trainer has set up his own facility and
that his wife does some work for this club.
The fitness manager (Liz) asked me if I’d rather work with him instead
of the club’s trainers. I said no, even
though he was a great trainer in a lot of ways.
Reasons why:
1)
I felt
abandoned when he left my previous gym (four years ago this week, in fact) to
start his own facility (which didn’t work out at the time). It’s unreasonable
to feel that way, but I had been working with him for 11 months and had just
begun to experience a recurrence of the binging issues I’d struggled with for
so long. He had promised to help me and then POOF! Gone. It happened really suddenly and there was no transition
between trainers, and the new trainer couldn’t work with me at the same time I
had gotten used to (Saturdays at 10). It sort of exploded my routine at a time
I needed it the most. It made me feel anxious, unsupported.
I seized any excuse I could find to justify getting off track.
The next trainer was great—but he was right
out of college and had no clue how to deal with someone like me, whose emotional
issues were (are)such a big part of my
weight problem. And in any event, he
only lasted there a couple of months before leaving, too. At which point I
decided going to therapy was what I needed, after all—since the binging problem
wouldn’t go away and was just getting worse and I was at a complete loss on
what to do about it. So I started seeing my current personal therapist, JoAnne, who specializes in treating people with eating disorders. That was the beginning of a long process of healing from the inside out, which is still ongoing.
2)
I just plain got too attached to him, and I
treated him like the therapist I desperately needed. He wasn’t
trained to perform that kind of function, though he tried. But I definitely
know I don’t want that dynamic again. It was very unhealthy for me and exacerbated
other mental health issues I have, particularly with men. (At the same time
this was going on, I had a work friend bail on our friendship because his wife
thought we were having an emotional affair.
It was not a good winter.)
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